In some cases, divorce is inevitable. However, that doesn’t make it any easier and is bound to take a toll on you emotionally and, in some cases, financially. While some factors are out of your control, such as how long it takes to finalize the whole process, self-care isn’t. It’s crucial to take care of yourself emotionally and physically if you want to come out of the other side of the divorce process a better person.
Here are a few tips to help you take care of yourself to see you through the separation and divorce process:
Take Care of Yourself Physically
It sounds cliché but taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to move on from a divorce. It’s crucial to ensure you get adequate sleep to re-energize your mind and relax your body. It can also help you kick start your day with light exercises for about 20-30 minutes, after which you should take a shower.
Exercising promotes the release of endorphins, also known as the feel-good hormone, which helps boost your mood. Consider exercising at least three times per week to boost your self-esteem, which can help improve your body image.
Moreover, diet is as important for your physical and emotional well-being. It’s common for most people to turn to junk food as a pick-me-up when going through a nasty divorce. Junk food and consuming too many carbohydrates have been linked to instances of depression. Instead, consider consuming foods rich in natural fats, lots of vegetables and fruit, and drinking plenty of water.
Last but not least, invest in looking your best outwardly. It may not seem like much, but wearing new clothes has been shown to boost self-esteem and mood. Consider grooming yourself by trimming your hair and nails, and reward your accomplishments with a massage every once in a while.
Invest in Your Mental Health
Taking care of your mental health is as equally if not more important than looking good on the outside. It’s easy to lose yourself in your work and forget to take some time out for yourself. Finding a new hobby or rekindling your passion for something that brought you joy is one of the most effective ways of dealing with negative emotions.
Avoid spending a lot of time alone but instead, get out more. However, it would be best to avoid getting into a new relationship before you completely heal from your present hurt. Avoid blaming yourself for things that don’t work out. Acknowledge the part you played, learn from it, and cut yourself some slack.
It may also help to speak with a professional counselor to help you through your grieving process. Most people are adamant about not seeking help, but it’s often said that a problem shared is a problem half solved.
Don’t Isolate Yourself
Isolation is part of the grieving and moving-on process. However, you shouldn’t isolate yourself for too long lest you get used to spending time alone. Consider spending quality time with your friends and family and open up whenever you’re ready. Socializing can help boost your mood.
Take Some Time off
We’ve talked about not isolating yourself, but it sometimes helps to take a break from your daily routine and go for that vacation you’ve always wanted. It can be something as simple as soaking in the bathtub for an hour or two or going to the spa. Taking a road trip can also give you some clarity.
Change Your Environment if Possible
Being in an environment that constantly reminds you of your situation can impede healing. It can be as simple as moving houses or getting rid of their picture and clothes. Some instances may require you to make drastic changes, such as cutting off mutual friends.
Revitalize Your Spirit and Soul
Avoiding negative emotions may be difficult, but you can keep them at bay by nourishing your spirit and soul. Some things that work wonders in this regard are yoga and meditation. Meditating and yoga help you focus on being in the present and helps you have a positive outlook on life.
Other activities that can help include reading a book, listening to music, and investing in your spiritual growth regardless of the religion you practice.
Nature Works Wonders
Your divorce may end up teaching you how strong you are, but before then, you need to avoid dwelling on the past. Getting out more and being lost in nature is one of the most effective ways to change your general outlook on life. Set aside some time to hike, travel and discover new places. Try out new cuisines and socialize in the process.
Listen to some music and dance your sorrow and worries away; the good thing is you can do it alone and still enjoy it.
Moving on from a divorce isn’t an easy feat. However, you can take small strides in the right direction by having a positive outlook on life instead of asking yourself what could have been. Begin by investing in yourself in all aspects; emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Then, work on improving yourself and do the things that make you happy. Lastly, be open to making new connections, and while it might not look like it now, time heals everything.